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Definition of Happiness

已有 1738 次阅读2016-12-13 18:44 |系统分类:他山之石| Happiness

    在西方流传着一句据说是来自老中国的谚语,只是我在中国从未听说过:“如果你想要几小时的幸福,就去喝醉酒;如果你想要三年的幸福,就去结婚;如果你想要一辈子的幸福,就去做个园丁。”他们对园丁能一辈子幸福的解释是:“做有用的事,与自然融合,对身体的锻炼和每天都会有新的喜悦。”
  我看到过一份美国某大学对“幸福”的研究课题报告,对幸福下的定义是:“主观感到适意的程度”,具体地说是“对自己的生活感到有意义、满意和舒适的一种积极的状态。”这种感觉应当是持续性的。
    许多人以为休闲是很大的幸福,但调查显示:大部分感到幸福的人是在工作中,是那些因工作而特别忙碌的人,而不是有太多休闲时间的人。幸福不意味着“得到我想要的东西”,而是“追求我们想要得到的东西的愿望和过程”。人有时不珍惜自己已经拥有的,却总去想那些得不到的东西。就像有些男人宁愿想像出50个梦中情人而不和他身边那一个女人实实在在地生活。
  幸福是一种使两者平衡的游戏:我们已有的和我们想要的,即愿望和可能性之间的。最后他们得出的结论:“幸福的人是一个有远大目标同时不忘记自己是生活在现在的人;一个选择对自己的才能和潜能有挑战性的人;一个对自己的成绩和社会承认感到骄傲的人;一个自尊、自爱、自由、自信的人;一个有社会交往也能享受人际关系的人;一个乐于助人并接受帮助的人;一个知道自己能承受痛苦和挫折的人;一个能从日常生活小事上感到乐趣的人;一个有爱的能力的人。”
    A proverb from ancient China was widely spread in the West: “ If you want to be happy for a few hours, go to get drunk; if you want the happiness to last three years, get married; if you want a lifetime happiness, take up gardening.” The reason for the last choice is this: Gardening is not only useful; it helps you to identify yourself with nature, and thus brings you new joy each day besides improving your health.

     A research of a US university that I’ve read gives a definition of happiness as what makes a person feel comfortably pleased. To put it simply, happiness is an active state of mind where one thinks one’s life is meaningful, satisfactory and comfortable. This should be something lasting rather than temporary.

Lots of people regard it the happiest to be at leisure. But according to the study, it is not a person with plenty of leisure but one at work that feels happy, especially those busy with work having little time for leisure. Happiness does not spell gains one which is after but a desire to harvest what one is seeking for. People often do not cherish what they already have but yearn(渴望)for what they cannot get. That is somewhat like a man indulging(沉湎于)in dreams of numerous lovers while unwilling to settle down with the woman beside him.

Happiness is a game balancing between two endsWhat one has and what one wishes for, e.g. One’s dream and the possibility to realize it. The study comes to this conclusion: A happy man is one who aims high but never forgets his actual situation; one who meets challenges that tap his ability and potential; one who is proud of his achievements. He has self-respect and self-confidence; treasures his own identity and loves freedom. He is sociable and enjoys wide-range communication with others; he is helpful and ready to accept assistance. He knows he is able to bear sufferings and frustrations; he is sensible enough to get fun from daily chores(. He is a man capable of love and passion.

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